Sexuality, like everything else, was designed as an outlet for worship. For married people, it is to be experienced in sex - in physical, emotional, spiritual union with your partner as an act of praise. For singles, it is worship in abstinence. The problem of self-sex (masturbation) or selfish sex (inherently progressive, violent, disconnected sex) is that it is an act of self-worship, not an attempt to legitimately worship God.
Truly, the main component of sex is not truly physical but physical-spiritual. For you, dear singles -the seemingly unmet needs we experience can be met by passionate praise and worship, intimate community, and service rendered unto our world. You get to experience, in your time of abstinence, the ways that celibates worship for their whole life. You get to be fully abandoned unto worship for a time.
Countless millions have, in the past, convinced ourselves of the mere physicality of selfish sex and self-sex, but truly the adultery of lust is inescapable in these acts. Be convicted, brothers and sisters. Let your minds be renewed on the topic of ‘healthy’ sexuality. Abandon your ideas of what is “normal” or “natural”, and immerse yourself in the Bible’s understanding of sexuality as a supernatural experience. Abandon yourself unto God to worship Him with the passions you have previously devoted to your sexual idolatry. Wait patiently, with fear and trembling, for a spouse with whom you may find a legitimate expression of sex, and in the mean time joyfully abstain.
Glorify God with your bodies, brothers and sisters.